Ok, there is something folks say that I have NEVER understood....If someone is having a bad go of things and they tell someone about it, for whatever reason...pity, support, advice, or just to get it off their shoulders...why why why do people try to diminish their pain by saying "well just be thankful because someone out there has it worse than you" SERIOUSLY?????
To me...that's a polite way of telling someone "oh shut up and quit your bitching!" Have you ever told someone about some tremendous thing that's happened to you...promotion, new job, won the lottery, etc...and they say "well someone out there has it better than you"? Yeah, didn't think so.
Why not let people have their misery and work through it however they see fit? Why make them feel bad for feeling bad? Think about that for a minute....in essence you're telling them that they're wrong for feeling bad because someone else feels worse. That's not fair. The most catastrophic thing in my life, could be a drop of water in the ocean of someone else's life, while your catastrophe is a drop of water in my ocean. No one knows what each of us has been through or had to deal with, so diminishing someone's pain is just cruel, let them hurt. Just listening to them could be all they need, just an ear, someone who cares for 10 minutes.
Now, maybe "The Bucket" post makes sense, as I've had my oceans of catastrophe...I am willing to listen to someone else's misery because very few ever listened to me and sometimes, that's all I really needed. I didn't need anyone to "fix it" for me, just listen. Easiest thing in the world to do. God gave us one mouth and two ears for a reason....listen twice as much as you speak.
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